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家族に救われたオーストラリアの独身母親
息子の為に再婚をしなかった４０才
オーストラリア南部で家族の葡萄園を手伝う４０歳の独身子持女性からの手紙。彼女は 一人息子に悪影響がでることを恐れ、結婚や男性との出会いを避けてきた。僕も出会ったことが ある少年は今１５才になった。彼女の愛情が素直な子どもに育てた。 家族が示してくれた愛情と思いやりによって彼女は救われた、と書いてきた。
Hi Rese
Sent: Thursday, November 29, 2001 3:08 PM
Subject: Re: motivation and life
>Hi, Shoji
>
>So sorry to hear about your young friend.
Thanks
She looked up to me as her mentor.
I feel very terrible about the whole thing.
> It is so hard for kids growing up in the world as it is today.
> So many marriages don't work, parents meeting new partners.
> Quite often the parents can make the mistake of cutting their kids off when
> they begin a new life with another person.
I think that was one of the major reasons how this had happened. They expected the girl to be street tough like any other young Americans, who left home for some family conflict. They did not realize that street-tough was not how she was raised in Japan. The new father expected her to be like any other Americans. Both parents should have known that she was not mentally independent enough. The new father should have known the American streets would be too rough for a vulnerable young Japanese girl. Mother should have gone out of her way to protect her. What happened was that they expected to see from her the same toughness, which many American young would show. That was too much to expect out of a kid who was raised in an incubator in Japan. Street tough could easily mean drugs, crime, sex..
> That's is one thing I would never allow to happen with Luke in the few
> relationships I have had since being apart from his Father, that is probably
> one of the reasons why I am still single.
I have a great respect for you Rese. When I first met you in Phuket four years ago, one thing I noticed was that you were a good single mom.
> Obviously the other is that I just haven't found the right person!!!
Right ones are all taken? It is really difficult to find a right man out of what is left.
> Luke is my responsibility till his is old enough to look after himself, but
> even after that a parent always needs to be there for support when things go
> wrong. That's what family is for after all!
Exactly. I only wished that the girl had had that like you did. The fact was that she could not feel free to eturn home for a comfort and rest. When family was supposedly the only place kids could go for a help, she did not feel comfortable doing it.
> Its sad there isn't a few more compassionate people out there to give a hand
> when someone goes through these stages.
> As much as she had you to talk to over the internet, she needed someone near
> to give her reassurance.
>
> I can relate to only a portion of the situation being a single Mom trying to
> survive, but my Family have always been there and I was fortunate enough to
> have a little ray of Sunshine (Luke) and to snap out of my miserable times
> when I had to.
>
> Life is such a treasure, its a pity we all can't life it to its fullest!
>
> Hope you are feeling better
> My thoughts are with you
>
> Love Rese
> xxx
>
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